Hating your body: can boudoir still be for you?

“What if I hate my body?”

It’s a very common question. And it’s valid.

Let me tell you this: body hatred usually isn’t about the body itself, it’s about years of societal pressure and expectations that taught us worth depends on appearance. Psychologists call this internalised weight stigma: when cultural ideals of beauty get turned inward until they feel like self-truths.

You don’t need to love yourself first

In a session with me, there is no expectation to be thin, toned, or flawless. You don’t even need to feel good about yourself yet. You only need to be open to seeing yourself differently.

Research shows that self-compassion—treating yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend—can reduce body dissatisfaction over time.

How we will approach your lifestyle boudoir photo session

• Clothing: wear what feels safe. my lifestyle boudoir is not about nudity unless you choose. -

• Comfort: bring pieces that connect you to yourself, from your favorite panties to a sweater to jewellery to a blanket.

• Control: we decide together how images are made and shared. Your consent is never assumed, it guides every step.

Language makes a difference

The words we use shape how our brain responds. When you say “I hate my body,” the brain reinforces that pathway of rejection.

Cognitive psychology shows that reframing to neutral or descriptive language—“my body feels heavy today” instead of “I hate my stomach”—can lower stress and reduce shame over time. Studies in body image research confirm that this shift makes acceptance more possible, even if love feels out of reach.

A step you can take today

Look in the mirror and name one thing your body does for you—walk, hug, breathe. Function before aesthetics. It’s a grounding practice, supported by body-acceptance research, that can change your perspective over time.

Closing thought

So if you hate your body, boudoir can still be for you. Not because it erases those feelings overnight, but because it offers a new perspective. You don’t need to wait until you love yourself first—you only need the willingness to begin seeing yourself differently. When you’re ready, you’ll find more guidance in my [Guide].